Thursday, December 16, 2010
Thoughts on the first year of marriage.
While our first year of marriage has been, what's the word, trying...I've never wanted to "throw in the towel." Yes there were nights when emotions ran dangerously wild. Nights when I begged Will to come to bed from the couch. Nights when I wondered what I had gotten myself into. But it is all part of a learning process.
We are 17 days away from our first anniversary. I look over a year filled with times of uplifting one another. Times of holding one another when words wouldn't suffice. Times of fear and doubt about whether we would make it. Times of rejoicing over a healthy baby boy. Times of true sadness and times of true joy.
Couples get divorced a lot these days. I always thought it was because they were always fighting. Or couldn't get along. Or they have nothing in common. But after being married a short while, I think I know what it is.
Apathy.
Apathy takes a couple from marriage to roommates. From date nights to same old same old. From getting dolled up to not caring. From passionate sex to a chore. From sweet texts to not even knowing they're gone.
I guess things start falling apart when the everyday becomes mundane, and you are no longer experiencing life together. No longer calling each other just to say "I miss you." No longer sharing hopes, fears, dreams, and passions. No longer being "one."
But instead worrying about laundry. And taking the trash out. And e-mailing people back. And running errands.
Will and I have talked about this a lot lately. It's hard to find time, because it feels as if life is dragging us as it races by. It's hard to discuss his dreams of travel and photography when the baby is screaming, needs to be fed, has a diaper that needs changed, or just demanding full attention.
How will we continue to pursue one another? How will we continuously fall head over heels for one another?
My sweet husband is a wise man. And a Godly man. That's why I married him. I was reading through his old blog posts, missing his deep, sensitive, and intellectual thoughts. I discovered this post that he posted in 2007 describing the purpose for his blog. He wrote,
"My goal is to make the everyday beautiful. I aim to express awe for the mundane. I hope to show you my delight for the ordinary. All the while, chronicling the journey that is the rest of my life."
I pray this becomes the anthem to our journey. Instead of apathy and mundane.
Make everyday beautiful. Express awe. Show delight. And then chronicle the journey.
May our marriage become one of richness, desire, and beauty.
Thursday, December 2, 2010
Antigua, Guatamala
-Gorgeous cobblestone
-Colorful buildings
-Rooftop verandas
-Casa Christina
-Perfect weather
Things I don’t like about Antigua
-Unsweet granola
-Loud mopeds
-No bathrooms
Monday, November 15, 2010
I'm selfish
I’ve always wanted to travel. Like all travelers, I want to see beauty and excitement. More than anything, I want to travel to a place that has far less than I do. I want to be stretched, uncomfortable, and have no other choice but to rely on something greater than myself. My dream of travel isn’t about bragging rights, digital pictures, or trinkets. My dream of travel is really about recognizing my selfishness and going somewhere where there’s no choice but to die to myself.
My biggest fear in life is that I won’t go. I will get distracted. Or busy. Or poor. Or scared.
It was a requirement that my life partner would share this dream with me. When we said, “I do,” we were ready to go explore together. We were talking of places, timelines, and money.
Then, we got pregnant. All at once, it seemed those dreams died, and we woke up in a different reality. We were in the game of life and got fast-tracked to adulthood. I experienced an overwhelming amount of failure, because I hadn’t gone. My one life goal, and I had missed my opportunity.
People always say you can “travel with kids.” If it’s so easy, why don’t people actually do it? In my heart, I knew I could go later, but it would never be as easy and convenient as it has once been. Here I was with a weekly grocery list and house slippers. Still in America. Still consumed with myself.
And then, a beautiful boy came into our lives. It was pure bliss, and we continue to praise God for all the goodness and love wrapped up in a 7lbs body.
All he does is poop, pee, burp, eat, sleep, and cry every ten seconds he loses his pacifier. My days and nights all look the same. Changing diapers, bouncing him in my arms, turning on the sound machine, and putting the pacifier back in every eleven seconds. Where’s the adventure? How could this be anything anyone would admire?
And then in the middle of the night as I’m up feeding my little boy, I realize something. My dreams of travel for the sake of being selfless are perhaps more selfish than I realized.
Maybe God’s way of showing me how to die to self is getting up five times a night, hearing the broken record of a pitiful cry, having to feed him whether it’s convenient or not, taking off work to care for a newborn, skipping lunch because I can’t set him down, doing laundry late at night because there’s no other time, and the list goes on and on.
When I hear that sweet cry through the monitor at all hours of the night, I realize I am being stretched, uncomfortable, and I can’t do this without Someone greater than myself.
I will travel one day, but maybe that dream doesn’t have to define me. Maybe God has other ways of showing me that it’s not all about me. It is about caring for others, taking care of needs, and learning that we need each other. I pictured myself learning this while sleeping in a hut, but perhaps I’ve just learned it holding the sweetest 4-week-old as his little hand holds mine.
Saturday, September 4, 2010
Progress of our new house!!!!
We just bought a house! from Liz Knowles on Vimeo.
Painting Progress-midday from Liz Knowles on Vimeo.
Meredith comes home from Russia!!!!
Mere Comes Home Pt II from Liz Knowles on Vimeo.
Monday, July 12, 2010
Photo Booth Fun
This is my husband Will. We love each other very much. One day...we set up a photo booth in our house. Not really for any reason, except Will needed a "fun" picture of us for the website (www.willknowlesweddings.com) So this is our attempt at being "fun."